SINGLE


You are freer if you have no one to love you. Truly, it is like that. Anything has a price. Even if a person loves you, you must take extra care of him or her, so that he is happy; because if he is not happy, you are not happy. But if a person hates you, pooh... nice, good-bye. Nothing for you to do, nothing for you to worry about. It's not my fault if you hate me. That's good.

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We don't wish people to hate us; but actually, the kind of love that we can have in this world is almost bondage. Even the good relationships are only bondage; because in thinking of them, we forget to set each others free. We demand from each other attention, love in return and all these kinds of things. Rarely the love between a couple flows freely without attachment, without demand, without command, without really any condition and without effort.

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Mostly you must make an effort in order to keep it, and any effort takes time and energy. Any person who you love around you, you must take time and attention, even if you don't want to. You just have to pay attention and we are diverted from the one-pointed concentration inside. Not many people can concentrate inside and outside at the same time. Even if he or she can, there must be time and it's time consuming. While you pay attention to these things, you cannot pay attention to that thing. Even if you can remember both things at the same time, you can only do one thing at a time. You cannot pay attention to this one and then also at the same time fully pay attention to the other things.

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So, actually we are perfect alone. We know what we have to do and what time to do what. But, unluckily, this world is made of many beings, including human beings; and we have to interact with them all the time if we have to do something, or else just go to the Himalayas, or some other mountain, be alone, do things yourself, that is also good. Maybe this sounds very useless, but it is good.