marriage & FAMILY


Q. Dear Master, is it true that a relationship and marriage will distract us from immediate enlightenment?

M. No. No. It's not true! It's not true. It's not true at all! But it might make us a little bit side-tracked for a while, for a while only. If you are completely enlightened, or are very strong on your spiritual path, it doesn't matter what you do, how attractive the world is, you will always remember what you want. But by the way, enlightened people will not become metal or wood. It's alright to take care of your family and your marriage. Most masters were married, and had children, and raised a family just like you. And I say it's absolutely normal.

Anyhow, it's absolutely normal to fulfill our duty in life, and at the same time, aspire to heaven. Yeah, because God doesn't put us here just to be lonely, or to endure hardship, or to be feelingless, or lifeless. It's all right. Whatever happens naturally, accept it, without struggle, condemnation, rejection. Just accept it and do things in a moderate way. We practice the middle path. It's alright if you don't want to get married, or if you don't want to take responsibility of a family life. But if you want to get married, if you love somebody, it's alright. It's part of the universal love. Any love is part of universal love. Yeah? Just accept it as God's gift to you should you find a good partner. If God doesn't give to you, even if you look through your life, you won't find any. So, don't worry about it.